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The Scary Kitchen Window: An Update

Past experiences tell us that the window over the kitchen sink terrifies Lilly. Over time, we isolated it as a sound issue. I tried, tried, tried to counter-condition it via the Relaxation Protocol and by only opening it a little bit while Lilly ate meals in the kitchen. Then, to be honest, I sort of gave up.

Did I really need to open THAT window?

Probably not, if it meant upsetting Lilly.

A Breakthrough

Then, earlier this summer, I completely forgot about the window issues.

I opened it without even thinking, and Lilly didn’t flinch. She didn’t step away. She didn’t react. She didn’t seem to care.

Only then did I realize … we’d had a breakthrough. I don’t know how, but she seems to be over her kitchen window phobia.

Weird. Yes?

Roxanne Hawn

Trained as a traditional journalist and based in the Rocky Mountains of Colorado, USA, I'm a full-time freelance writer for magazines, websites, and private clients. My areas of specialty include everything in the lifestyles arena, including health and home, personal finance and other consumer interests, relationships and trends, people and business profiles ... and, of course, all things pet related. I don't just love dogs. I need them in my life. Seriously.

Roxanne Hawn - July 16, 2010

Maybe you’re right, Dino. I like to think I’m self-aware enough to keep those vibes in check, especially at home, but you never know. Lilly knows FAR more about me than I ever will about her. She is a much better student.

Laura, Lance, and Vito - July 15, 2010

What awesome news!!! What a blessing to have one little issue just disappear! And by the way, I am absolutely loving that book you sent! I am almost finished and have already lined up it’s new home!

    Roxanne Hawn - July 16, 2010

    That’s terrific. I love when books have a life like that. I know it doesn’t help the author much to have one book get passed around, but I’m always glad to share books and such with people.

    Our local library had a big 100-year anniversary a few years ago. They had these forms near checkout that you could fill out, and essentially they wanted you to complete the sentence … I love my library because …

    So, I wrote “because I could never afford to buy all the books I want to read.”

    And, they used my quote on a HUGE banner. Cracked me up, but it’s so true.

Living Large in Our Little House - July 15, 2010

I wish that would happen with Emma and the laundry. She almost hyper-ventilates when she sees me getting ready to do wash.

    Roxanne Hawn - July 16, 2010

    Me too. Poor sweetie. Laundry is such a mundane thing. It’s so sad that it freaks her out. At least I could leave the window closed. You cannot NOT do laundry.

Barbara and Daisy - July 14, 2010

I find this happens every once in a while too. Daisy seems to find her own way through a “fear” without my intervention – except for relaxing and keeping a low key atmosphere. She’s been watching me intently while I do Qigong, maybe it’s “rubbing off”!!

Glad Lilly has “befriended” the kitchen window … way to GO Lilly!

Susan - July 14, 2010

Same thing happened with Allie and me. After Allie was in a car accident last year (with me), she was terrified of getting in my car. After a few weeks of intensive but only partially successful desensitization and counter-conditioning, I gave up for awhile. When I tried again a couple of months later, she was much, much better.

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