Lessons I Learned From Virginia Moore Hawn

The blog will go silent for a while as we cope with the loss of my mother-in-law Virginia Moore Hawn. She died early Sunday morning (May 6, 2012), after a week in acute hospice care. Here is my tribute:

Lessons I Learned from Virginia M. Hawn

 ~ By Roxanne M. Hawn

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Nurture friendships with people of all ages.

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Read … a lot, and share your books.

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Be loyal, compassionate, and faithful to those you love most.

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Don’t watch daytime TV.

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Find and stick with one good recipe for things like sweet potatoes, rhubarb,
and hamburger dishes for camping trips.

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Volunteer.

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Do something creative throughout your life.

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Splurge once in a while.

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Words matter, but actions reveal your true nature.

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It’s perfectly acceptable to laugh so hard you snort.

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An upbeat spirit improves any situation.

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Nap.

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Know when enough is enough.

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At least once in your life, share your home with a big, black dog.

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Virginia Moore Hawn

March 3, 1924 – May 6, 2012

Born at Homewood Hospital in Baltimore Maryland, March 3, 1924, Virginia Hawn enjoyed a busy childhood – filled with lessons in dance, piano, art, and elocution. Several times at the age of 8, Virginia performed an elocution recital on a local, afternoon radio show.

In her teens, Virginia rode bikes, kayaked, and ice-skated with friends. A cheerleader, she graduated from Forrest Park High School in the top 10 of her class of 400. She chose Duke University in part because of its football team. In 1941, she began earning her degree in education. She vividly remembered riding the train home for the holidays right after the attacks on Pearl Harbor. She graduated from Duke in 1945 and went on to teach kindergarten.

Virginia met her future husband Ivan Hawn, a fellow Duke student, at a cabin party on a lake. He came with friends of hers and immediately asked her out for a meal. Virginia often joked that she “never turned down a meal.”

Ivan proposed to Virginia on D-Day – June 6, 1944. They corresponded via letters throughout the war, as Ivan flew with the 8th Army Air Force both in the United States and overseas.

The military nixed their original wedding plans for Labor Day Weekend of 1945 by cancelling all leaves of absence. When Ivan could get home a couple weeks later, the couple married on September 20, 1945.

After the war ended, they moved to Kennewick, Washington, near Ivan’s parents. Virginia often hitchhiked to reach her in-laws’ home on the other side of the bridge. The couple returned to Duke so that Ivan could complete his degree, then they spent two years in Golden, Colorado, while Ivan attended the Colorado School of Mines. Their first home was in the White’s Apartment Building right on Washington Avenue, overlooking the Howdy, Folks! sign.

Virginia and Ivan moved back to Kennewick, Washington, where their daughter Terry, was born. They then moved to Richland, Washington, where their eldest son Bill was born. Ivan’s engineering job brought them back to the Denver area, where both Scott and Tom were born.

The whole family lived on Teller Street in Arvada for many years. The couple bought an old farmhouse in Wheat Ridge in 1968. Both lived in that house for the remainder of their lives.

Virginia preferred reading to watching television and was an active member in a close-knit book club. She enjoyed both fiction and nonfiction, particularly anything with historical or British ties. Virginia played golf in a local league for many years as well. Throughout her life, Virginia shared her home with many pet dogs.

A past president of the Wheat Ridge Art League and an accomplished oil and pastel artist, Virginia produced numerous paintings in her adulthood – many of which now hang in the homes of friends and family. She volunteered for years as a literacy tutor at a local elementary school. She made deliveries for Meals on Wheels. And as an avid student with an amazing memory for details, Virginia also volunteered at the Denver History Museum.

Her final volunteer work centered around the Arvada Center for the Performing Arts, where she met friends with whom she shared a special bond. There, Virginia gave tours of historical artifacts in the collection. She loved to tell the story of one youngster, who upon learning about the wood stove asked, “Where did the microwave go?”

Virginia also volunteered as a docent at the Astor House Museum in Golden, where she donned historical garb and gave interpretive tours to school groups.

After Ivan’s death in January 2000, Virginia caught an international travel bug and took three trips to England – two with family, one with friends. She also traveled throughout the United States with friends, usually visiting historical sites.

Family and friends will remember Virginia as one of the nicest people ever. Her positive outlook and compassion radiated from her heart. She got angry sometimes, but never over trivial things. The things that made Virginia “spitting mad” came from people being unkind or unfair to one another.

Virginia was quick to compliment others, to say thank you, and to help when need arose.

After falling on the ice outside her home in December 30, 2009, Virginia refused to surrender to the cold and fought to stay alive until help arrived. Virginia battled her way through several surgeries to repair broken bones and months of rehabilitation so that she could walk again.

She returned to her home in March 2010, where she resumed most of her activities. Even though she gave up driving, Virginia maintained her independence and shining spirit to the very end.

Despite catastrophic health concerns during her final week, Virginia basked in the love of her family and friends, who came to visit her at the Collier Hospice Center. When asked just days before her passing how she was feeling, Virginia replied, “Grateful and loved.”

She is survived by four children and five grandchildren.

In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to the Astor House Museum, 303-278-3557.

 

 

33 thoughts on “Lessons I Learned From Virginia Moore Hawn

  1. May 16, 2012 at 6:28 am

    That was a beautiful tribute, and she taught you so many wonderful things. I am so deeply sorry for you loss.
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  2. Michael Warren
    May 14, 2012 at 1:27 am

    I don’t watch daytime TV which made me gloat a little since this is one of the closest things to what Virginia Moore wanted to teach us. Never met her but she seemed really, really sweet.

  3. Sheryl R
    May 12, 2012 at 6:43 pm

    This is such a touching, loving tribute.

    I am so very sorry for your loss.

  4. Kathy Husband
    May 11, 2012 at 10:36 am

    I too remember Virginia as one of the nicest persons I ever met. She was so cheerful and positive no matter what the circumstances. I can only aspire to be as sweet and giving as she was. She touched a lot of folk with her wonderful tours at Astor House.

  5. Charlenevans09
    May 11, 2012 at 5:51 am

    My deepest sympathy to your family.. I can see that your and your Virginia had been close with each other. I know it’s hard to lost a family but I know with her memories lives in your heart, she’ll stay there always. It’s nice to read your tribute.
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  6. kb
    May 9, 2012 at 8:32 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss, Roxanne. Your tribute is absolutely beautiful and touching.
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  7. May 9, 2012 at 9:36 am

    What a beautiful tribute, Roxanne.

  8. Sue
    May 8, 2012 at 3:20 pm

    I’m so very sorry to read this. My thoughts are with you and your husband.
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  9. May 8, 2012 at 1:53 pm

    I’m so sorry for your loss. She sounds like an amazing woman!
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  10. May 8, 2012 at 9:19 am

    She sounds like a wonderful person. So sorry for your loss.

  11. Dorothy Baxter
    May 8, 2012 at 9:10 am

    I am so sorry for your loss. Such a beautiful tribute. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

  12. Tamara
    May 8, 2012 at 7:55 am

    A beautiful tribute, as others have said, filled with many lessons for us all. My heart goes out to you both for your loss of this wonderful lady, mother, and friend.

  13. Candy Blakeslee
    May 8, 2012 at 7:39 am

    What a wonderful interesting lady. Sorry I never got to meet her. I agree…never watch daytime TV, too many other adventures await.

  14. May 8, 2012 at 7:33 am

    What a beautiful tribute. You’re in my thoughts and prayers during this sad time.
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  15. May 8, 2012 at 1:07 am

    I am so sorry for your loss.
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  16. Jo's World
    May 8, 2012 at 12:33 am

    Thank you for sharing your wonderful mother-in-law with us. It was a most wonderful tribute. Wish I might have known her.

    Jo

  17. May 7, 2012 at 9:43 pm

    What a wonderful tribute to a wonderful lady. (((hugs))) to you and Tom.

  18. Sam
    May 7, 2012 at 8:58 pm

    What a beautiful tribute – sending you hugs and love.

    Sam
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  19. May 7, 2012 at 7:50 pm

    I’m really sorry to hear of the loss of your MIL, she sounds like she was a really special lady.
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  20. May 7, 2012 at 5:11 pm

    What a beautiful tribute. She sounds like she was a very special person that brought joy into so many others’ lives. So sorry for your loss
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  21. Maery Rose
    May 7, 2012 at 4:41 pm

    Those are some great lessons that your mother in law taught you and what a wonderful tribute.

  22. Debra Jones
    May 7, 2012 at 2:21 pm

    Beautiful tribute, RoxAnne… reminds me of the Story of Ruth and her mother in law Naomi…. what a blessing..

  23. Betsy Harrison
    May 7, 2012 at 1:54 pm

    Very beautiful Roxanne. Clearly a special lady that will be missed by all her family and friends. If only there were more people like her! Blessings to all her loved ones.

  24. May 7, 2012 at 1:47 pm

    what a beautiful tribute. Big leans & lots of slobbers being sent your way to help you thru your grief.

    wags, wiggles & sorrowful slobbers
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  25. May 7, 2012 at 1:19 pm

    This is so beautiful. She was a lucky lady to have someone who cared enough to keep her memory alive.
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  26. May 7, 2012 at 12:56 pm

    This is just lovely and it makes me wish I had known her. I am sure she appreciated having such a loving daughter-in-law.
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  27. May 7, 2012 at 12:50 pm

    This brought me smiles, and I think that would make her very happy.
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  28. May 7, 2012 at 12:43 pm

    What a beautiful tribute. Your ‘lessons learned’ brought me to tears and your eulogy shines a light on just what an amazing woman your mother-in-law was.

    I am so sorry for you and your husband’s loss. You continue to be in our thoughts.

    Warm regards,
    Leslie
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  29. Rachel Hopple
    May 7, 2012 at 12:42 pm

    What an outstanding tribute to an outstanding lady. Hugs to you all during this sad time.

    1. Nichole Evans
      May 20, 2012 at 7:08 am

      You really learned wonderful lessons from Virginia M. Hawn and you did an awesome tribute. I appreciate you for that.