Today is my 20th wedding anniversary. Indulge me — won’t you — as I wax a little nostalgic? This girl needs to celebrate every tiny thing. And, a big one now and then too.
I’d forgotten that we used the following passage from a poem read at the wedding on our invitations. It’s called How Will I Know You? by Meryl Fishman. Considering all the worry and stress in recent years, it feels even more fitting.
I will look at you and see the strength
I have never seen before.
And I will see the sensitivity that
Will be a partner to that strength
And I will be become encircled in your glow
And thus will we walk together always
You probably won’t be surprised to know that I wrote our entire wedding ceremony because I wanted to be sure certain things were said (and not said). For example, before we exchanged our vows, the minister / officiant shared our promises …
Not only to seek, but to find
Not only to find, but to accept
Not only to accept, but to rejoice
In all that we are and become together
I promise to give and to receive
To speak and to listen
To inspire and to respond
In all circumstances of our life together.
I pledge you my love and my loyalty
My strength and my respect
Above all others
Since we footed the bill for our own wedding and since I’m a bit of a feminist, I also walked down the aisle alone. There was no “giving away” of the bride.
Just for fun, I’ll leave you with this last photo. Entertain me with your ideas on the backstory.